Same-Sex Marriage
Posted on November 16th, 2008 by John at 14:57Recently California voters decided to amend their constitution so that, “Only marriage between a man and a woman is valid or recognized in California.” Proposition 8 was passed 52.2% for to 47.8% against. [1] Those in support of same-sex marriage believe that allowing heterosexual couples to marry while preventing homosexual couples from marrying is discriminatory against those who are not allowed to marry.
This issue is often compared by some to the civil rights movement in which certain members of our society were denied their constitutional rights. I believe that denying someone full rights as a citizen because of their skin color is clear civil rights violation. One group (those with lighter skin) told another group (those with darker skin), based on a superficial characteristic (skin color), that they were not full United States Citizens, or in it’s most heinous form, not fully human. It is absurd to characterize groups based on skin color and superficial characteristics, which unfortunately still takes place.
In order for same-sex marriage to be a civil rights issue, one group would, in this case those who believe marriage is between one man and one woman, need to deny those same rights to another group for an arbitrary reason. Individuals opposed to same sex marriage are not saying that they can marry someone of the same sex, but that a certain other group cannot. Those opposed to same-sex marriage believe that same-sex couples are asking for special rights beyond what other people have.
On the other hand, those in favor of same-sex marriage believe that two consenting adults is the only qualification for marriage. Those two adults could be of the same-sex or the opposite sex. Proponents of same-sex marriage believe that being attracted to someone of the same sex is just as natural as being attracted to someone of the opposite sex. In denying two people the ability to get married, because they are of the same sex, is as arbitrary as denying two people the option to marry because they are not of the same “race.”
There are heterosexuals who hate homosexuals. There are probably also homosexuals that hate heterosexuals. However, to state that someone who votes against proposition 8 (or for same-sex marriage) is disgusting or unnatural, is to disrespect someone. To state that someone who votes for proposition 8 (against same-sex marriage) is hateful, ignorant, intolerant, or a bigot, is to direspect someone. Labeling someone homophobic, unnatural, or stupid, is to deny that someone could have an informed opinion that is different from yours.
Everyone is entitled to an opinion, even unpopular or minority opinions, which is part of what makes the United States a great country; the right to, within reason, voice your opinion.[2] I think it is important to understand where other people are coming from, and if they have legitimate and substantiated reasons for their beliefs, even if you don’t agree with them, to be able to respect them as a person.


